Canceling Your Old Requests

I tend to give people about 3 months to accept requests, then cancel them. The new system is really useful for completing merges, but I only use it in the case of known unresponsive managers.

I keep a list of all the people who I've asked for merge/collaboration, with dates of first and last contact. Once they've been unresponsive to a couple of requests separated by weeks, I feel justified in asking others for merges (at least if it matters), and I don't want to harass them with more requests.

I've seen people respond 2 months after the last contact, though.... my list is more than 150 names long by now...

Hi Harald. I haven't been keeping a list, but I have a mental note! Haha.

I have had people respond to messages and requests as long as SIX months later!

sorry if I didnt honor your request please resubmit and I'll be sure to accept.

I had just send Geni help a request for a link to the open request. It is frustrating to attempt a profile merge, only to discover that it is locked by an unaswered request. Then I must scroll through my list of 300 unanswered merge request & find the one to cancel. When (& if) successful, I can then try a collaborator - if there is one. I think that Geni should release all profiles where the manager has not logged on in 90 days, unless a manager requests an extension (illness, jail, or something like that....)

Thank you all for the great tips and advice. This is so awesome to connect with my family members. :)

Mimi, good tip. Everyone can choose their own timeframe. I ended up killing all of my pending requests about a month ago, and now use our collaborator system to get merges completed very quickly (24 hours or less). Only have 4 pending merges now! Very managable...