First, I have to apologize that I didn't react on your detailed answer before! I just thought I would get a reminder by geni.com as they did before when you started the discussion!! (So I really wondered if the discussion already had stopped. SORRY for that!)
Well, it's a pity I can't ask my dad anymore about the issue. But I remember he told us about his father being 'homesick' - I just forgot.
I don't know if he planned to return to the US to live there, but there's that other story Papa (Ludger) told us so many times:
When he was a boy, he once stood at the window. His father - Anton - stood beside him, layed his hand on daddy's shoulder and said: "When you're grown up, the two of us will make a long travel - far, far away...".
Anton Elshoff died when his eldest son Ludger was only 11 - and they never managed to realize this journey...
Years later my dad realized that it was the US where his father wanted to take him to.
I dare to say he missed his friends and family over there. And my father always missed you!