About "Lady" Barnum
I always heard her called grandma Barnum when the family spoke of her. Her husband was said to be related to P.T. Barnum(Circus owner). Perhaps a cousin; I'm not sure. The story I've heard is that when Grandma Barnum was a young lady, she was an upstairs maid for a San Francisco musician(perhaps orchestra). His last name was Anderson! and walla there was grandpa!