Did you mean this to be a PUBLIC discussion that EVERY one on Geni (and Google) can read? Or was this meant to be a Family Discussion?
As to the question itself, why would you think that giving a million dollars to a hospital (if you are a billionaire), is more important than giving a dollar to a poor man on the street? How about, over the years, giving 10,000 dollars to 10,000 of the poor? Which of the above makes the world a better place? Are you certain?