Mohinder Singh Ahluwalia
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He was about 6 years older to me. And Gurcharn was in the middle about 3 years older than me. That made him and Gurcharn a team and I was the one always trying to hang around them - like three is a crowd. He being the ldest would get blamed for most of the trouble we created or got into.
He was around at Mannanwala (Pakistan 1944-1947) and then later at different places including Hardit SIngh Malik's. Farm (forget the name of place), Mukerian and later Bhaura.
He was married while we were all at Bhaura. This was a first wedding in the family in the last 15-20 years and definitely in our life time that we remember. Bhabi was from a village Qila Hans where the wedding party went. I think we stayed there overnight. I have a recollection of going there once more at the time of the fast (Karva Chauth) that Bhabiji new brides keep for their hisband's long life.
I must admit, we did not know how to deal with the new Bhabi and we all thought it was something of a toy to play with. I realize now tht at times we were very insensitive towords her and did not pay attention while making jokes which were at times at her cost.
I am sure it had a very negative effect on her and it must have affected our brother also seeing her bride being made fun of by his brothers. I think most of the comments were related to the language she used coming from her remote village. It was not that we were elitists and lived in a big metro city - and from that point it was very unfair on our part which resulted in lot of hurt.
There was a culture in the house we lived which took some comfort when the in-laws family was bad-mouthed etc. If there was a fight between the son and the daughter-in-law it was always she who was at fault - even though we had no clue what the fight was about. Our father was generally away from home and did not make any comments on such matters but it was different for the mother who would make some little comments here and there.
I remember the advice he gave me once after I was married. It was a very sound advice and any one can benefit from it. Referring to some petty fights between husband and wife, his advice was "never to go to bed mad or angry" . This was the advice for both husband and wife.
He was always easy to talk to. He had a great sense of humor and would find many things funny. Although some rare times his funny comments would land him and others in trouble.
He was a handiman and could fix anything. This is a trait I probably got from him.