Phyllis Lucille Gates

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Phyllis Lucille Gates

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Birthplace: Dawson, Lac qui Parle County, Minnesota, United States
Death: January 04, 2006 (80)
At home, Marina del Rey, Los Angeles County, California, United States (lung cancer)
Immediate Family:

Ex-wife of Rock Hudson
Sister of Private and Private

Occupation: Secretary, interior decorator
Managed by: Private User
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About Phyllis Lucille Gates

Phyllis Gates was an American secretary and interior decorator known for her three-year marriage to the actor Rock Hudson. The story of their marriage was depicted in the 1990 TV film Rock Hudson starring Daphne Ashbrook (as Gates) and Thomas Ian Griffith (as Hudson).

Gates was born in Dawson, Minnesota, and raised on a farm. Early in her life, she worked as a sales clerk in a department store, airline stewardess, and secretary for a New York City talent agent, before moving to Hollywood to work for the Hollywood talent agent, Henry Willson, who represented actors Rock Hudson, Tab Hunter and Rory Calhoun.

Gates met Rock Hudson in October 1954. They started dating some time later and were married in Santa Barbara, California, on November 9, 1955, shortly after he finished filming Giant. Following a brief honeymoon in Jamaica, their marriage began to disintegrate. They separated in 1957, following rumors that Hudson had committed adultery while on location in Italy for the film A Farewell to Arms. The rumors were later confirmed by a close friend of Gates's, who also revealed to her that the individual Hudson had the affair with was a man. The divorce was eventually finalized in 1958.

Gates later became a successful interior decorator. She died from lung cancer at her home in Marina del Rey, California, aged 80. She was survived by her sister Marvis Ketelsen and brother Russell Gates.

In her autobiography, published in 1987 after Hudson's 1985 death from AIDS, Gates wrote that she was in love with Hudson when they were married, and that she did not know Hudson was gay when they married, and that she was not complicit in his deception.

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Phyllis Lucille Gates's Timeline

1925
December 7, 1925
Dawson, Lac qui Parle County, Minnesota, United States
2006
January 4, 2006
Age 80
At home, Marina del Rey, Los Angeles County, California, United States