Fine.

marsha,
i couldn't agree more but unfortunately all duplicates , merges and incorrect information has to be dealt with. with patience and persistence we will eventually get it right. life is short but your history is very long. don't get frustrated. when i do, i just give up for a few days. i used to feel it was my tree but it really belongs to everyone on the tree. billions of people down through history. we can never expect it to be all inclusive or completely correct.

Don't worry about it. I know the feeling all to well. Amber

I think Marsha meant she was going to stick with her own tree and not do other people's merge issues (unrelated to her tree) for them.

I think it is generally a good idea. I have several but I plow through them slowly. I prefer to do them myself. If I need help then I will ask. I like to see any conflicts or problems related to the merge issue, or even if I want to complete the pending merge.

ok Marsha,thanks

I haven't been on in a couple of weeks because of the frustration. Plus I have tons of things I need to get done around the house. Yeah life is too short so don't stress :D

All of you seem to be having problems as a result of merging your trees. I have had requests to merge my tree. I don't have the membership where I can merge my tree.....I think I'm glad I didn't merge my tree.
A cousin of mine asked me to become a member. She had entered people on my Dad's side even up to my parents. There are some mistakes....but I can't change them because she is the manager of these people. I had emailed her.....she had told me she doesn't go to this site anymore.

@Roberta that is odd. Unless she closed her account you can ask her to add you to her family group. Or you can try requesting management. There is a link that says "More Actions" if you click on it it drops down and there is a link that says "Request Management" . I'd be careful though because if she merged into someone else's tree well then you might have other people to deal with.

OK, Marsha. No more merging. Sorry I couldn't be of more help.

Marsha, You have been quite helpful to me by allowing me to compare some of your dates and full names. Don't get discouraged by a few comments. Jeff

George, I won't merge - unless someone asks me to. I will be quite happy to merge with anyone who wants me to. I'm just not going to instigate any more. Not for awhile anyway. Not until things simmer down a bit as I know it ultimately will. Thanks for your support everyone. Y'all seem to know what you're doing and I know you're doing a good job getting all the issues worked out. I just wish I could help without making things worse!

Marsha, keep your chin up, cousin.

Here's the kind of shit I get:

Günther Kipp invited you to his Family Group.
(age 57, Århus, Danmark)
"Marsha, please join my family. If you don't want to make more merges you with over 24.000 managed profiles must accept all invitations you get"

Now he's telling me what to do. And he obviously didn't read my message properly as I SAID I would merge with anyone who asked - I just wasn't going to try to fix all of our mutual issues for awhile. Now HE can just hold his breath until I reply to him. I don't HAVE to do anything!

I don't need attitude like this. What is it with some people???

Marsha,

This is my first venture in Geni - seems intriguing. Your father was an AF dentist - mine too! But before I was born and only in Weisbaden, Germany. He is the only son of Louis and Alice Veazey of Nitro, WV. I can provide some info on other relatives as well. Hope we can collaborate.

Greg Veazey

Well... even if all those profiles were yours who cares if they don't get merged :) There are so many unmerged profiles already that we can't do anything about I don't see any need to panic. I spent so many hours every day taking care of merge issues and then I'd watch as other people would upload photos and add info. I thought that was what I should be spending my time on. Some people don't understand. I'm kind of letting my extended family go because it is the more recent ones that are more important and what I want to work on. I think things here on Geni are totally out of perspective. Is this site so important that everyone needs to go railroading everybody and taking away their choices? Remembering that helps me kind of ignore the drama that goes on here. Take a breather. Things do get a bit dramatic here sometimes.. well a lot. I have a love/hate relationship with this place.

@Marsha
First sorry that I bothered you. (don't understand why you call it shit)

I only tried to say that the more invitations you accept the easier it will be!!
And in me opinion people, in the big tree, who don't accept requests, are in one way or another sabortating the work for all others

'Cause, if you'd bother to read my comments, you'd see that I'm the first one to accept requests to merge. i adore collaborating and want all the info I can get and as many people on the tree as possible. I don't appreciate, however, being TOLD to do so. Now send me your request again and I'll accept it. But BE NICE!

You go girl....Tell it like it is.. If someone out there doesn't want you to merge your records then they shouldn't ask to start with...Love the last email..Have a great day Marsha and don't let them nag you too much.
Amber

Thanks, Amber. ;) Greg, I accepted your request and look forward to seeing where we link up! If your dad was in the USAF between 1957 and 1987, I bet he and my dad know each other. See if your dad remembers a Phil Kamish. I can't ask my dad as he's now in a facility for dementia patients. He has FTD, which sounds very flowery (!) but isn't.

@Marsha
BE NICE!! I'll try my very best, but patience has never been my strong side ;-))

I request people to merge even when it doesn't seem to effect me. If we are all connected, it willbe a problem if you go back far enough....and I try to go back really far.