Query on wives of John CROUCH

Leanne, my vote is for the 2nd Mary Vidler above because I have located the Ticehurst Parish register banns (completed 31/7/1785) and marriage (20/8/1785) for wife 1 to William Ransley, whereupon they proceeded to have about 12 children born from about 1786-1809, a number of whose Baptisms I have located in Ticehurst naming the parents as William and Mary Ransley.

What evidence ties Mary (wife of John CROUCH) to either of these parents?

I have no evidence tieing your Wife 2 to John Crouch, but I do have strong evidence tieing Wife 1 (my 4GG) to another husband, William Thather RANSLEY (my 4GG). I have church register entries for the birth of their children that would overlap the above cited children. So Samuel and Barbara's daughter, Mary, cannot have been married to John Crouch. You can eliminate Wife 1 from being married to John Crouch.

I have the Ticehurst Parish Banns of Marriage Register for William Ransley and Mary Vidler plus the 1785 Ticehurst Parish Marriage Register witnessed by Samuel Vidler. The parish continued to register the births of their 12 children from 1785 through 1809, though I seem to be missing the birth registrations of three of them. There was no second husband. No John Crouch in this family.
As far as "loading up my evidence", how are you asking me to respond? Is there a way to load documents in Geni or are you asking me to cite the archives where I found these document?

Ok, I've made a start with the Banns and Wedding registry images for William and Mary Thather. I will continue with the birth registrations of their children after returning from my 35th wedding anniversary trip as today is that day. I have no information about John Crouch or his children.

I'm a little confused by what you may or may not be seeing when you look at the posted marriage document. It show Mary Vidler's father, Samuel Vidler, as witness, immediately beneath Mary's name but does not list her mother as a witness which is to be expected. The date of the banns and wedding registry and the church (in Ticehurst) which recorded these events is consistent with this Mary being the daughter of Samuel Vidler. I have separate documents for the birth of Mary Vidler and the marriage of her parents Samuel Vidler and Barbara Dengate in Ticehurst - https://familysearch.org/ark:/61903/3:1:S3HT-DYQS-PS6?cc=1465706 : 9. But as I have just got back from my 35th anniversary trip I have a lot of catchup to do, but will get around to posting more documents soon.

Concerning missing children, I show William & Mary Ransley are missing one son James who lived for just a few weeks in late 1792. All the other 11 children except eldest son William (Jr) are listed out of birth order. I have the Ticehurst records of all their Christenings/baptisms. Also my 3xG Grandfather, Samuel Ransley, was never a Lieutenant. He was an enlisted man, not an officer. At one point he was busted down from corporal to private and worked all the way back up to Staff Sargent before retiring with an honorable discharge. I have a copy of his military discharge papers.

@ Re Lieutent Samuel Ransley my Grandmother Bertha Celestina Coren Nee Oxenham suppy the information from the Oxenham Family History.

Barry Coren

With regard to the two sources for the two Mary's listed by you above, they are clearly two quite different Mary's albeit they lived nearby and at the same time - one is Mary daughter of Thomas Vidler who married John Crouch, the other is Mary daughter of Samuel Vidler who married William Ransley. All 12 of William Ransley's children are listed there, although two of them have been listed twice with differing death dates.

Furthermore the two Mary's appear to be first cousins as both the sources you list show on their trees that their respective fathers Thomas and Samuel Vidler are brothers, sons of William Vidler (1740-1788) and Mary Jeffrey (1707-1787). I think that solves it.