Capt. Stephen Charles Alling

Mary’s husband Stephen was the only child of Stephen and Mary (Trowbridge) Alling, born in 1716; died 1772. His original name was Charles, but after his father died, his mother ordered his name changed to Stephen after his late father. When his mother died, Stephen Trowbridge became his guardian. (After Mary died, Capt. Stephen Alling married Sarah Andrew of Milford.)

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The Alling family figured prominently in the early days of New Haven Colony. The progenitors, Roger and John, at first answered to the name of Allen, but after 1660, “Alling” was introduced into the records. Roger came to New Haven with Capt. Lamberton as his steward. He lived on the corner of Church and George. He was received into the church as a member in 1641 and in the same year was admitted to the bar. Roger was a farmer, public brander of horses, custom house officer, blacksmith, sergeant in the first military company, deacon in the church, and the first and only elected treasurer of the colony. He married Mary Nash. Today the name Alling lives on in West Haven as the Allingtown Hill.

John Alling Sr. came to New Haven a few years after Roger, married Ellen Bradley in 1652 and was made a freeman in 1658. His branch of the family reverted to “Allen,” largely. His son, John Jr., was a weaver or clothier who lived near the Milford line.

P.S. Note that we don't "have" Stephen in our crypt--the stones outside of the foundation of Center Church on the rest of the green were all carried over to Grove Street cemetery by Yale students when the green was cleared of all tombstones, or he may have been buried on another plot in or around New Haven.