copied from the end of http://www.geni.com/discussions/111399?msg=806442&page=2
Lois, you said, "To me, "Merge" means initiate and complete the merge, not have it awaiting approval. That makes sense to me, is I believe what this sentence meant when written, and definitely was the case when one or more Curators attached the tree I was in to the Big Tree."
I understand your point, but I went a different direction and I did it intentionally. Here's why.
One of the fundamental problems in explaining anything is the disconnect between what users think they are doing and what the software thinks the users are doing.
One of the basics of good technical writing is to describe the process from the users' point of view rather than the software's point of view. If you do it the other way around, you can be technically correct, but you will create create confusion for users who don't already know the process.
Here, I had to face a very specific problem. If you walk through a merge, as a user you think you are merging. All the way through the process, the system calls it a merge.
If both profiles are in the same tree and you look at Compare Profiles, your choices are "Yes, merge these profiles" and "No, remove match". If the profiles are in different trees, your choices are "Yes, request to merge" and "No, remove match". (Plus, you see the warning that the profiles are in different trees.
If you understand the system, you know that in the first case you are actually merging, and that in the second case you requesting a merge. At this point, it still looks like "merging".
Further, it is really only at this very last step that the system almost discloses that you aren't merging. You're doing something else, something that it calls "approving a match", even though the system is too polite to call it that in front of you and tell you to your face that's what you're not really merging anymore ;)
Geni chooses to call the second case "approving a match", although that terminology doesn't appear anywhere on the screen. Curators call it "stacking" (because the two profiles appear to be stacked on the Tree View). Many users and curators also call it "setting up a merge".
My thought (I could be wrong) is that most users will see it as just "merging". In one case the merge is immediate, and in the other case the merge requires an additional level of approval.