Hello Erica,
I am just seeing this response to my original post. I guess I am not being alerted. i will figure out why.
Thank you for your response. I have actually done what you suggested and have asked nicely at first that I add people as a manager on my profiles. I have explained my reasons realizing that often others may not understand that merging one profile creates numerous duplicates. Sometime it works and people are apologetic. But mostly I just get ignored and the behavior continues.
In Jamaica there are so many interrelated families and many of us are related on several surnames. This is really at the heart of the problems I am having. So generally someone joins Geni not realizing their family have been there for years.
I even had one person delete my profile because the original profile was not the name he knew his relative by. I had to explain that I had in fact worked with another descendant to create the branch and had the source documents. That I am the keeper of my family history so my tree includes the family of my cousins who have also contributed. I just could not understand why he would delete my profile rather than contact me and explain the change he wanted to make.
I have so many profiles on the tree so I tend to get a lot of these problems. I am not happy if the information being merged is incorrect. One example of this is earlier this year I had to correct one complete branch of my husbands side of the tree because someone had merged numerous profiles but they had confused the generations because of the similarities of names among family members. it was a nightmare to fix.
I have now come to accept that Geni is about creating this huge world tree and is less concerned with accuracy. Also I was constantly asking one of the curators for assistance with some of these issues. Its just been too overwhelming with everything else I am doing..
For the last few years I have been volunteering my time helping others make sense of their DNA results, in order to find parents or grandparents.
I have now stopped building my tree here and will only continue to maintain what is already on Geni, such as updating existing information. t am no longer checking the accuracy of the numerous merges or the duplicates that also need to be merged and am now keeping my tree elsewhere.
It just all became too much. All the fun was being removed from a hobby that means so much to me.