Sarah H. Ladner

Sarah H. Slade Abney at Find A Grave:

http://www.findagrave.com/cgi-bin/fg.cgi?page=gr&GRid=74855257

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Sarah Slade was the daughter of Hezekiah Slade and Helena Victoria Taylor. She married Plummer Ladner on September 15, 1859 in Marion County MS. Plummer was killed in the Civil War in 1864. Children of Plummer and Sarah:

1. Butler Ladner

2. Theodocia Elizabeth Ladner

Sarah Slade Ladner married a second time to Dr. Henry Clay Abney. Their children:

1. Cora Ann Abney

2. Eliho Abney

3. William Abney

4. Rosa Ann Abney

5. Henry Clay Abney, Jr.

6. Sarah Ann Abney

7. Mary Ann Abney

After the death of her first husband, Plummer Ladner, Sarah Slade Ladner married a second time to Dr. Henry Clay Abney. Henry was with the Confederate States Army at Vicksburg at the end of the war. On 16 Oct 1871, Dr. Abney bought the large estate of his wife’s father, Hezekiah Slade, and lived in this area for several years at which time Eliho Abney died as an infant and was buried in the old Fillingame Cemetery on the Fillingame homestead.

Bio information from Ken Slade

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Here is a letter Sarah wrote to her first husband, Plummer Ladner, during the Civil War. Plummer was killed February 8, 1864. Thanks to our blogging cousin, "The Gulf Coast Realist."

It is a tear-jerker.

http://gulfcoastrealist.blogspot.com/2008/09/visit-from-past.html

November 29, 1862

My Dear Husband,

I received your kind letter you sent after Rutilous got with you. (Rutilous was Plummer’s brother and was married to Sarah’s sister, Elizabeth. He died suddenly on 2/21/1863.) I was very sorry to hear that you were sick, but I cannot expect to hear nothing else while you are in the Army. I am well. Well as can be, I can never say that I am ever right. Well, Butler is fat and hearty. He grows fast. He can talk. Oh, he is so much company to me. When I ask him where you are he will point the way to go and say, "Pa gone way yunder."

Oh, Plummer, I wish you could come home to see us once more. You said you had a good notion to come any how as they would not let you off. Oh, Plummer, I would be glad to see you anyhow, see you anyway you can come. But I can not persuade you to desert. You know best what to do. I know if I was in your place and they would not let me off, I would want to desert too. But I do not know what is best. It looks like they would let you come home now. Oh, Plummer, if you could be with me when I am confined, I would be better satisfied. Oh, Plummer, I wish I could go to see you. No chance for me to go now, but I hope you can come home. Cpt. ___ is gone back. I think he will shortly let you off.

Steed Calvar [Steed's Cavalry] got out of beef. He sent Elijah up after beef. Elijah (Plummer’s brother) came to see me and Jeremiah (another of Plummer’s brothers) to see about selling your beef. Jeremiah concluded to take some of your beef. They got six head of yours. I reckon they will take more the next time. Elijah went to see if Shaw would take the money you owed him. He refused to take it. I would not care if he got one cent of it.

Pappy and Mama has been sick. They are both mending, the last I heard from them. All the rest of the family is well, I believe. I haven’t received one letter from George yet. Pappy got some letter from the boys. They were all well. Oh, Plummer, you don’t know how dear you are to me. I could not help crying from your letter where you said you kissed mine and Butler’s hair. Oh, Plummer, I wish it could have been me instead of my hair. Oh, Plummer, you don’t know how it hurts my feelings to think you want to see me so bad and cannot come to see me. Oh, Plummer, ain’t this too hard to think we love as well as we do and have to be parted. Oh, Plummer, I look at your likeness and shed tears. To think maybe I shall never see you again. I wish I had my likeness to send to you. Plummer, if you don’t come home, soon as I get able to go, I will go to see you if you are alive. Plummer I know you love me dearly but try and not grieve yourself any more than you can help. I hope and pray the Lord will be with us. I hope these few lines will find you well. Oh, Plummer, I cannot write all I want to tell you, but I reckon these lines will give you satisfaction, so I must quit. So goodbye, Plummer. I remain your true loving wife. I will remember you, Plummer.

Three kisses for you, Sarah Ladner.

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Marriage, Sarah Ladner and Henry C. Abney, 16 November 1867, Hancock, Mississippi

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CENSUS:

1850, Marion County MS, Sarah Slade in home of Hezekiah Slade

Hesekiah Slade M 46 South Carolina

Helena Slade F 41 Alabama

Danl Slade M 20 Mississippi

Cls Slade M 18 Mississippi

Eb Slade M 17 Mississippi

E Slade F 15 Mississippi

S SLADE F 11 Mississippi

H Slade M 11 Mississippi

Sam Slade M 7 Mississippi

Geo M Slade M 5 Mississippi

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